MEMORIES AND TRADITIONS

There is an order of  life.  We develop while in our family nest, then we are to fly and begin new lives.  Some form another family, while other chose to live alone.  Whatever the life choice,  the idea is to mature and see a progression of growing physically, mentally and spiritually. Our circle of early life, creates many fond memories and traditions, that can be infused into our new personal families and  friends, as we also experience new traditions and form new memories. These thoughts of a past holiday or vacation place can be stepping stones into a positive and healthy personal plan for the grown children and their family or friends.

As is the case with anything, we see unhealthy family relationships.  While others want absolutely  nothing to do with the immediate family they grew up in, some never leave or many suffer from (or enjoy) Dependent Personality Disorder.  I'm not speaking about difficult times; finances etc.  I am talking; Manipulating the plans and control of conversations that keeps the little birdie warm in the nest.

 Matter of fact Mom loved being a mother and made all the sacrifices but now might be a time for resting or parachuting out of an airplane. In some cases she's still raising adult children and like never before, in both rural or an urban setting, she's raising grand children.

When this happens, memories and traditions; slow down? stop? Why? You are always in the present. Occasionally nothing is special or creating a magical memory.  This idea of memories and traditions transforms into;  you "wore out your welcome" years ago.  It could be true: absence does make the heart grow fonder. No matter the age or even if the "child" has a family of their own, a short in the circuit happens and  the above normal progression of moving on, is in the dark and powerless, while growth of an entire family community is stunted.

"GO WEST YOUNG MAN"!

The United States would not have been discovered or developed from Plymouth Rock to San Fransisco if we were to stay in the immediate homestead or nest.

The family community to create community was ordained by GOD:
"Therefore a MAN shall LEAVE his FATHER and MOTHER and be JOINED to his WIFE and they shall become one flesh".

As I try to learn from the mistakes you and I have made, I say:
Go. enjoy life!  as you (sometime without knowing), create new memories and  traditions.